Male sexuality and the penis
As a man, you may think
that your penis governs your life. Whether you want to have casual sex with no
personal interaction, to encounter deeper aspects of your own self in a spiritual union with another person, or to enjoy a permanent
relationship with a soul mate, somewhere at the bottom of it all, your sexual
drive is
dictating what you do.
Owning a penis allows a man (and boy) to
feel unique and special. Whether you see yours as a "wand of light" to
bring sexual ecstasy to you and your partner, a weapon of anger, a fun toy, or a
troublesome organ to be tolerated, the truth is that it will occupy much of your
time as a man. You can use it to provide temporary pleasure and relief from boredom,
or as a means to increase your self-esteem and feeling of masculinity. You may
have a sense of shame, disgust or regret about it, or you may see it with pride,
pleasure and joy. You may have to exercise it every day with many different partners
to have any feeling of worth, or you may wish to reserve its pleasures for one
special person.
You may see sex as totally penis-centered,
or you may be a wiser lover who knows the value of the whole body as a sexual organ.
If you measure your masculinity by your sexual performance, things like how big
you are, how long you can keep it up for, how long you can keep going
during sex, and how many partners you have notched in the bed posts, are likely
to be important to you.
So which of these myriad of possibilities represents
male sexuality? Well, the obvious answer, of course, is that they all do.
To be continued
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